Taking Time out for God!

This morning the parents of the children preparing for First Communion in the French community at St-Luke's gathered for a mini-retreat. In fact, we celebrated the Eucharist together. But not just a plain mass, we are blessed that Father Roger is able to take the time to explain things as he celebrate.... from the Why of the books to the colours of his vestments, add a little history of the church and there is so much to learn. We have a faith that is rich in rituals, people and history. Not all history comes up smelling like roses but all in all - we have to remember that we are people of the world and sometimes we make the same mistakes of the world. God guides us but does not make us do stuff! It's up to us, the people of the church, to stand up and be counted when injustices occur.

This morning readings were about the Beattidues... you know Blessed are those who.... are poor for the Kingdome of God is there.... our culture seems to be more full of attitudes then BEATTITUDES.

I thnk God that as a community of faith, I have the opportunity to come together with adults, parents who love their children and only want their best and are able to take SOME TIME for themselves because by doing so they are also PRAISING GOD since we are in fact made in his image.

Raising Catholic Kids - part I

"The Slopy depth of Love -
Last evening, Tuesday, February 6th, Deacon Gerry Turpin welcomed about 35 parents and shared with them insights about raising children in today's world all the while keeping a catholic perspective. What struck me - was the relationship between the word disciple and discipline. Parents are the most important teachers to their child - are children are "young disciples" following a role model. Parents who see their children as disciples are thus called to be Christlike to them.

Studies state that by the 3rd year of High School, only about 5% of students have a healthy self-esteem. Children need good role models to guide them. But what about discipline???? How can a parent discipline? A new definition of discipline was offered "discipline is not punishment but it is a teaching process". This teaching process is not based on cohersion or control. Deacon Gerry stated that discipline is 90% prevention & 10% correction. Children misbehave because they have a perception that they are not Loved. Key word is "perception" - but we do know that they learn early on that good behaviour does not warrant adult attention however certain behaviours do get adults attention quite promtly. Prevention is recognizing the behaviour that you want your child to exhibit and using praise to support it. "The more you recognize the good behaviour the need for bad behaviour decreases" says Deacon Gerry. In other word, "Catch them being good".

During the evening many more areas were mentionned, such as

• Children have been taught the power of "NO" - our job is to teach ourselves (the parents) alternatives to "NO" such as "Yes but later" or "Give me a minute"
• Children will respond to good preventative discipline
• Children also need corrective discipline i.e., consequences for inappropriate behaviour - accountability rather than punishment
• Children need to be allowed choices within limits - in biblical sense he refered to the story of the Rich Young Man - Jesus proposes but the young man has to choose - make a decision.

All these ideas and much more.... When do I let go? What about anger? How do I break the cycle?

If you want to hear more, Gerry will be back next Tuesday February 13th. Please feel free to invite a friend.

Thank you Gerry for sharing your experience.

Finding God in all Things - Part II .

For those of you who attended the workshop and would like to pursue the reflection a little bit further - I've discovered a site that offers 3 minute meditations (Actually 3 minutes can be long) but it's worth the effort - it can be done at work.... during lunch.... and I found it to be quite peaceful and life giving...http://www.findinggod.org - Then just go to 3 minute retreat -

Finding God in All things!

Finding God in All Things was the theme for our CAFE (Catholic Adult Faith Enrichment) evening held last nite. After reflecting on "Where is AWE" in todays society... does it still exists... do we stop and appreciate or are we always in a rush.... for some of us the sense of AWE is still very present.... our guest speaker explained that very young she became aware of God's presence in her life.... although she has crisis, like we all do, by maintaining a dialogue with God, she will often find that she had overlooked God's presence. She proposed that we take daily time to recognize God in our life.... maybe before going to bed at night... to take a few minutes and reflect on the good of our day... the difficulties that we experienced.... the help that we would need and maybe even the ask forgiveness for the hurts we might of inflicted. This type of daily reflection will help us keep up our awareness.... thus remaining close to God and keeping the AWE in the AWESOME LOVE God has for us.